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(Argentina) El lado B de ser mamá: Para las mujeres, quejarse de sus bebés dejó de ser un tabú

Casi indignadas por esta falta de información previa y la sorpresa que despierta ese nuevo ser, las periodistas Ingrid Beck y Paul Rodríguez publicaron “Guía inútil para madres primerizas”, donde dicen cosas como: “Durante nuestros primeros meses como madres primerizas, nos topamos con un cúmulo de frases hechas y supuestas verdades sobre la maternidad. Descubrimos una gran hipocresía y falta de tolerancia hacia las mujeres –desde la absoluta incapacidad de los ambientes laborales para adaptarse a la vida de una madre de un niño menor de un año hasta la descalificación permanente de todo lo que a una le pasa y siente, con el famoso y condescendiente ‘estás nerviosa’– y notamos la escasa inclinación de todo el mundo para reconocer que en verdad nadie sabe nada sobre cómo criar un hijo: una simplemente lo hace, como mejor le sale y más o menos adentro de lo que considera sus parámetros normales, ideológicos, intelectuales o lo que sea”.

via Clarin

More Polemic: 1% Wives Are Helping Kill Feminism

1. [F]eminism is pretty much a nice girl who really, really wants so badly to be liked by everybody — ladies who lunch, men who hate women, all the morons who demand choice and don’t understand responsibility — that it has become the easy lay of social movements. Who can possibly take feminism seriously when it allows everything, as long as women choose it? http://bit.ly/KHkUuX

2. Feminism is not about choice – at least not insofar as it’s about saying “Any choice women make is a feminist one and so we can’t criticize or judge it.” Feminism isn’t about creating non-judgmental happy-rainbow enclaves where women can do whatever they want without criticism. Feminism is about achieving social, economic and political equality for all people, regardless of gender. It’s not about making every woman feel good about whatever she does, or treating women like delicate hot-house flowers who can’t be criticized … it’s silly and counterproductive to say that feminists shouldn’t push women toward egalitarianism because men, as the more privileged class, should be doing all the work.

If staying home is your “feminist choice” and you actually have a full range of choices, what does that say to your sons and daughters about gender roles? Is it in any way challenging an already deeply-held cultural assumption that women exist to serve others? That women are care-givers and need-meeters and housekeepers and emotional-work-doers, whereas men are breadwinners and influencers and public-sphere-operators who are served by women? What is your son going to expect of himself and in a partner? What is your daughter going to internalize? http://bit.ly/KzlFcV

juegos para jugar con A.

sort of sickeningly gender specific, but some good ideas.